Day 71: Nov. 27, 2013
It seems like what's unbearable, but essential in death is that the lives of the living must continue, and you wonder, how can this be? It's too much to ask, at least at first, or maybe forever. But it must. And the person who has left you resides in a new space inside of you, and at first, it is not enough. But then it is. And there's a gratefulness for having known and loved the person, there in your heart.
Well, and then there's your community who also loved your person. The people who also feel the emptiness of the world because your person is gone. But they shed light on you through their having known her. Like, another friend whose mom died about a month ago, and who learned that she had friends he had never met. Friends from her daily breakfast at Waffle House. People who loved her and talked with her every day for years. The manager of the restaurant who wept and whose life had been touched by my friend's mom.
I don't know what it's like to lose a parent. But I'm pretty sure I won't be ready for it when I do.
Coffee: none today!
Cups and bags challenge: back tomorrow on this one. Playing scrabble with my dad now.
Will post tomorrow! Hope turkey day was great!